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Giving people advice is a way for me to help people who need it and to help people better themselves. Self-conscious people can be sure I'll help them through their troubles until the end and that I'll guide them every step of the way. I, myself, have had issues with the way I look, but after realising that the girl with the perfect hair doesn't like her feet, or that the girl with great legs hates her nose, I knew that everyone dislikes something about themselves. I think it's up to me to help the people I can and to make somebody's day. People who share the same interests as me, like writing, drawing, painting, simming, making videos, acting etc. can get some advice to help them better their hobbies/professions. Girls, you want to look perfect for that date on Saturday night? Well, I also give beauty advice so that your frizzy hair looks sleek and your flat hair gets some volume, so that your eyes look gorgeous and your lips get that perfect look. Guys, ever wanted to know what goes on inside a girls head? Well, I can tell you exactly what you're doing to upset her and how to get her to forgive you. Best to get girl advice from a girl. I'm here for all of you!

Saturday, 22 October 2011

Halloween

Yes, the sweet smell of Halloween, one of my favourite times of the year. People dress up, throw parties, go trick-or-treating, and go all-out crazy!
The wonders of Halloween, right?
But hang on...
Why am I posting this pointless post, you ask? Well, we all have to be a little spontaneous every once in a while. Even if it’s just posting for the fun of it...
Now, I was thinking, how about we play a game? I want every one of you to do something spontaneous this Halloween, post what you did on the comments and let’s see who did the wackiest thing this Halloween. If you’ve done something that is perfect enough for Halloween (and no, not things perfect enough for Christmas, Easter or your birthday.) and is wacky enough for my taste, you’ll be featured as the first ever ‘Reader-of-the-Month’ when that monthly post comes out next year.
Maybe it’s not the most exciting prize, but there’s not too much I have to offer, now is there? Nope, so you can be ‘Reader-of-the-Month’ or you can choose to skip out. Your choice in the end...

What else? Okay, if you send your pictures in to my e-mail then I can display everyone’s pictures in a post posted specifically for that. Show me what you got up to on a spooky Halloween day/night and I’ll have your picture up there for sure. But obviously you can’t send in the pictures after I’ve posted the thing, wait until next Halloween! But if you get it in anytime before, you’ll see your picture up here, on my blog.

So there you have it. My post that was just for fun.

“Wait, pictures? Wacky things? Huh?” Well, if you’re feeling like this then please ask someone with more intelligence to help you, because it’s not that difficult to perceive. Please do not feel offended as that was pun-intended and not in a horrible way. *Bursts out laughing.*

So c’mon, let’s see those pictures and hear about those wacky dares!

Wednesday, 3 August 2011

The Shay's Say Team Now on MXit!

Hey there people!

Yes, it's true, the Shay's Say team are on MXit! As I'm the creator of the Shay's Say, I am also the one handling the MXit contacts.... Most of the time. No, I'm just kidding, it'll be rare if I'm not the one online.

Anyway, if you do have MXit then be my guest and invite the team and I.

It's purpose is so that you have another way of contacting us. You send a message telling me your problem and then I get working on it for the next post. You also get updates on the latest posts and what they're about. Sounding good yet? Well there's more!
As one of my contacts you can send me a message at any time asking me to help you with a problem and if I feel your problem shouldn't be one that is put onto the internet then I'll help you get through it by, instead of posting, having a conversation with you privately. Sometimes some problems are just too painful to have put on the internet. Believe me, I know.

Now, by now you might be saying, "Ok, give me the friggen contact already!"
Ok, ok, just invite the team and I,
ID: shays-say
Name: Shay or even Shay's Say

Now, another thing I will need to bring up are some things that we ask of you.
-We are here to help you with your problems and give advice on your hobbies, we are not a game of 'hook-up' and will remove and block any of you who adds us just as a little fun. We're trying to help people, not get into something stupid like that.
-We're very busy and hardly have time for chit-chat and small talk.
-Last, make use of this. If you need advice then don't be shy to ask!



Now, concerning the team...

So far it's just Audrey and I in it, but we have plans of adding new staff to the team (no, they don't get paid). If any of our readers have an idea about adding a new staff member then share your ideas with us, we love hearing from you!

But before some of you get excited, hoping you could be part of the staff, I'm afraid that answer is no. We only have friends,  family and people we know and trust be part of the Shay's Say team. So sorry...

But fear not, for you all are part of our team already. Without you reading our blog, what would we be working for? We wouldn't be helping anybody because nobody reads or requests, so don't doubt your place in this!


But as a gift to our readers, we're going to post a "Reader of the Month" each month. The more we hear from you, the better chance of you being the Reader of the Month.
And as Reader of the Month, we'll do a special post all about you, yes, you! We'll put together a series of questions and you just have to answer them.
So, yes, it's basically an interview that we do each month on one of our fantastic readers.


Good luck!
 Sincerely,
 ~The Shay's Say team

Monday, 1 August 2011

Disapproval of Love

Ah, love. It's a magical feeling, no? When someone loves you as much as you love them, now that's even better...


Except for when it's all ripped away from you because your parent's disapprove!

This is exactly how a girl (let's call her Alexa) felt when the guy she loves (let's call him Marcus) is disapproved by her parents. Luckily her friend, Jessica, send me an e-mail explaining the situation. Now instead of going through it and handling it alone, she's got me to help her realise a few things. I'll also give her a few suggestions on what to do, so that Alexa doesn't lose her parent's trust or the guy who makes her happy.

The Story

Alexa and Marcus have been dating for a while now, Alexa is in love with Marcus and the feeling is mutual. Alexa is thirteen and Marcus is fourteen, so it's a young love, heh?
Alexa is very happy with her boyfriend and wanted her parents to meet him.
Yes, it does seem weird that a thirteen year old would do that, but it's what happened.
After her parents met him and he left, they turned to Alexa.
Now, before we continue, I'll need to inform you that Alexa is white and Marcus is coloured.Now that that's out there, let us continue.
They told her that they had a strange feeling about him and that she should stay away from him.
She asked them why and their answer was simple, "He's coloured and you're white."
She broke this off with him but still has feelings for him. They still send messages to each other but her parents don't know about it...
She told her friend, Jessica, her problem and Jessica asked that I post something that would help her friend, which, as you can clearly see, I am doing.

Advice

Oh dear, her parents are old school... Not good...

Darling, racism is a huge problem throughout the world and is something that needs to be fixed, but I can't wave a magic wand and make it disappear.
I support people who are white and coloured couples, not that I don't support dating your own race, I do, but I just don't see the problem with different races dating. I mean, imagine if a girl with red hair isn't allowed to date a boy with brown hair, that's just not right!

On the other hand, you should trust your parents. Remember, they were your age already and have gone through it all before. They're just protecting their little girl.And what's this about you not telling your parents you still contact him? Oh nuh-uh, girl now that just ain't right!

My advice to you would be:
1) To tell your parents, in a calm tone, that you've still got contact with him, no screaming, shouting or being immature and throwing a tantrum if they throw a fit. You're still only the child and you're still the bottom of the food chain here. Also, tell them when they're calm. I mean, are you seriously going to tell them after they just had a fight (or something)? No you're not!

2) Make sure that if you're going to have a conversation with him it's one that doesn't involve you calling him "love", "sweetie", "honey", "baby", "babe" or anything else of the sort. He'll think you're still in a relationship, just a secret one. And that, my dear, is a huge NO.

3) Be friends with him. Be buddies and never bring up any personal jokes or memories that you two shared when you were dating. It'll make the conversation awkward and make you feel guilty for possibly bringing up something that will bring back the sorrow of the break-up. For both of you.

4) Go out with your girlfriends and go meet new people. You never know who might catch your eye and get the approval of your parents. Plus, it'll help you recover from your severe case of heart-break for having to end it with the guy.

5) Do you have someone to talk to? Someone who'll listen and help you recover without telling others about it or giving you the cold shoulder. Vent your feelings to them to get it out of your system, if my hunch is correct you and your friend, Jessica, are pretty close. Why not vent to her?

I wish you luck on your path to recovery.
I hope you found this helpful and that you take my advice to heart.

I also hope this helped anyone else out there who had the same problem.

~Shay xxxx

Wednesday, 6 July 2011

Introducing Shay's Say

Hello people of the internet

I'm Shay and this is Shay's Say. (Well it's not like you didn't know that already. I mean, it's huge there at the top).

This is the first post so there isn't really much to discuss, but please enjoy my ramblings!



Well for a start I just want to inform you that if you want to ask any questions about anything from art to issues with who you are to The Sims, then be my guest. If you don't want to make it a public question then you can e-mail a question to shay_sims3@hotmail.com and I'll answer your question in a post, keeping you anonymous if you so wish.

I'm here for you, and don't you forget it!


Like I said before, there's nothing to discuss, so let my ramblings begin.


Over here in South Africa, perticularly in Cape Town, it can get seriously windy (and no, not the gas way). The only place we get snow is on the mountains but I just can't get over the fact that my toes are freezing, no matter how many pairs of socks I put on! I think they're perminantly frozen . . .

But on the up side, winter's a great time to crawl into bed with your favourite book. At the moment I'm reading the Septimus Heap book series, which is one of the many books that you can just lose yourself in. Their world becomes yours.

It's also a good time to start a blog *ahem* . . .
No, this blog isn't just a pass-time thing, it's something that I feel I should commit myself to. And yes, I'm prepared to help with most things, like giving advice for writing/drawing/painting, tips on how to stay gorgeous on those bad days and much more!

Yeah I'll help with pretty much anything. But not anything. I'm particularly skilled in the simming (playing sims) department. Sims (well, Sims 3) is one of my other favourite pass-times, it's just too adictive!

I'd like to thank the simmers who're visiting this blog. Thanks guys and gals, you rock!
In fact, I'd like to thank all of you who're visiting my blog. It's not every day someone visits your blog (well for me it isn't).

But I hope that'll change and the pure fact that you're reading this means I'm one step closer to helping even more people.


Okay, I think I'll stop rambling now. But remember to spread the word about Shay's Say!

Thanks,
with love.
~Shay xxxx